Singular “they” is a correct gender-neutral pronoun! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
And, there you have it! “They” is grammatically correct.
OMG, next time I want to publish something and they try to edit it out!!!
Michael and Alan play a practical joke on Daniel during one of their takes. (x)
Oh my fucking God.
fun fact: daniel specifically asked to be placed near this one extra he had a crush on during this scene. alan and michael did this on purpose not just to prank daniel, but to make him embarrassed infront of her
What really gets me is that the star of the entire franchise had a crush on an extra and if you don’t think that is the fucking cutest thing ever, you, good sir, are wrong.
THIS IS MY MOST FAVORITE THING
Let me just take a moment to comment on tonight’s episode of “The Fosters.”
Here, in the picture above, there are two people. The woman on the left is cisgender and straight, but has bounced from foster home to foster home. She is currently “in love” with one of her foster brothers. Unless you watch the show, how could you know such a personal fact? Is it visible? Can you just “sense” it, whatever that means? No? Ok, then. Moving on.
Now look at the individual on the right. What do you see? Again, unless you watch the show, how could you know that *he is a transgender man? Sure, at first glance, he could be described as a “butch” woman. But, as I stated before, *he is a transman. What does that mean? Transgender is a word to describe a person who’s assigned gender at birth, does not match the gender they identify with. For example, the person on the right may have been born with female organs and was proclaimed a “girl,” but in actuality, he is a man. You with me so far? Good.
Now, let me explain why this is such a big deal. At least, I feel it to be a milestone in “family” television. This character’s name is Cole. He is a “juvenile delinquent” living in a group home with other “juvenile delinquents.” Unfortunately, he was placed in a home with other female-bodied, woman-minded people. Since that is not how he identifies, you see the problem, correct? The show brought up the issue, and in my opinion, handled it quite well. Anyways, this character, this possible new beacon of hope, has introduced an identity that most other “family” programs would not. To transparently shed light onto a minority group is still something that a lot of us in 2014 are shocked by, as it goes against the culture norms. And, the fact that it is indeed 2014 makes that even worse.
While Cole is a caucasian man, as far as we know, his race is the only identity with privilege he carries, and even that doesn’t completely prevent him from falling into the hands of a juvenile detention center. It may delay the process a bit, yes, but his own actions will decide his punishment. If one can overlook the fact that he’s, “Another white queer person,” then ok. If it’s hard to accept that we still don’t see many trans POCs, then I understand that. I say this as a Chinese, transman who is still learning about race, privilege, and other intersecting identities. If there is another point that I missed, please lemme know! I want to make sure I didn’t misconstrue anything.
This young man, this transgender man graced our screens for the first time tonight and has added another dynamic to this show, which is also milestone in and of itself. A show where a biracial, lesbian couple adopts children of other races and raises them with love and compassion. As of now, this is the best fairy tale untold.
With that in mind, with the show’s premise somewhat explained, let’s come back to this character. Cole. Look at his body language. Look at what he’s wearing. Look at his hairstyle. This is a screencap from the episode, posted on Maia Mitchell’s Instagram. The creators of this eye-opening program have taken the time to add another identity into their ever-growing cast and story lines. And, of course, when you’re working with someone as talented as Tom Phelan clearly is, the character literally coms to life. While Cole does not represent every single trans-identified person, his presence has already caught the attention of others. And, hopefully, his life story will be shown with the same respect others’ would receive.
The fate of this character is still unknown as tonight was his first appearance. However, in his few moments of screen time, we’ve already born witness to few of the struggles some transgender folks may endure: chest binding, pronouns, blatant disregard for preferred name, etc.- also of which I can, unfortunately, empathize with. But, then again, that only adds to the authenticity, doesn’t it?
Still in its first season, “The Fosters” has proven to be an influential and educational show about family and love. It indeed showcases that “DNA doesn’t make a family; love does.” Every single one of its characters, both main cast and supporting, has their own story to tell- talents and flaws, beliefs and ideals. Not one of these people are perfect, but that’s ok; they’re human.
Whatever happens with the rest of the season, I hope that Cole, however much time he gets, will be achieve his own happiness. We are past due for a positive, transgender persona in television- one who we can take seriously and love at the same time, and especially one for youth. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful for the various movies and shows that have previously depicted transgender/gender queer individuals, but on a program like this- where acceptance is one of its main messages- I hope Cole can become a role model for other fearful youth who’ve never seen anyone like them on the big/little screen; like I wanted when I was 13 and just barely “coming out.”
Bottom line: I’M SUPER FREAKING STOKED THERE’S A SUPER LEGIT, TEENAGED TRANSMAN ON TV OMGFNG;KSFSKAHSA.
*exhales* All right. If you were able to stay with me during that, I thank you. If you weren’t, I do apologize for the ridiculously long post on your dash. Let me also say, I’m beat. If there are any typos, I hope you can look past them and that they don’t affect the rest of the post. I’d like to think I covered all of my thoughts, while also bearing in mind the sensitivity of the topics mentioned. If there is something you disagree with, or something I may have gotten wrong, I sincerely apologize. These are purely my own ramblings, and do not reflect those of all trans-identified people. I do not speak on anyone’s behalf but my own. Get it? Got it? Good.
my ascent into adulthood
goals for 2014:
- get hella more rad
- get hella less sad
How do I stop annoying the people I like
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